We should understand relationship counselling is not a stigma. Instead, it is needed. The misconceptions attached with counselling needs to be detached. As we all know that relationships are a very significant part of our lives, all our lives, we struggle to maintain them. As social beings, we are essentially emotional beings, and therefore we strive towards affection.
There are various reasons why relationship counselling is seen as a stigma. Firstly there is a lack of awareness among people. Everybody thinks of themselves as a trained adviser. But what happens is, when others need help with relationships, we quickly come up with great quotes and suggestions, but when it comes to ourselves, we fail to apply that advice to our situations.
Secondly, counselling is not seen as standard in our society. Most of the population relates relationship counselling with people who find it difficult to accept help to improve their relationship status. The thought of being judged is another reason that acts as a hurdle to connect with psychologists and therapists.
Divorce rates are increasing at an alarming rate today, and with counselling, one can also save
themselves from extreme depression, stress, relations and anxiety. However, we all know that communication is an excellent way of solving problems.
Counselling is a systematic process that can help us gain an understanding and control of our emotions. Eventually, it helps maintain healthy relationships, and because it is a safe space to seek help and guidance, one does not feel any fear of being judged in any case. It is all about confidentiality, commitment, and communication. It lets you introspect yourself, which is why you can get hold of your thoughts and emotions in a better way.
Also, the unbiased attitude allows you to freely bring out everything you cannot share with your family or friends. There is nothing wrong with taking a step to improve your mental health. Whenever there is any problem in relationships, be it small or big, it affects our mental health, which is why we behave and feel in a particular manner like irritated, agitated, and not focused on work. We must seek relationship counselling whenever needed.
A healthy relationship leads to healthy mental health and a positive environment. Different relationships throughout our lifetime constantly surround us, then why is it so stigmatised to visit a psychologist?
Psychologists are not only for mental illness but also for personal problems. Skills are not innate; we need to learn them; therefore, we need relationship counselling for better positive coping skills. There is no loss in seeking help for your betterment.
Bhawna Mehlawat is a researcher and writer from India.
