Caring for your friends and family is an instinct ingrained in most of us. If you notice them spiralling in a quagmire, it is your duty to pull them back up. Whether it’s a drinking problem they are facing or a toxic relationship they’ve got into, it is necessary to help your loved one face the facts.
However, it can be very difficult to convince someone who is stubborn and unwilling to put their foot down. What can be done in this situation? Here are three ways to help your loved ones face the facts.
Consistent confrontation
While this is the first thing that anyone would consider to do, most people still back out because they fear that their loved ones won’t listen. It requires some consistency and regular confrontation to communicate your thoughts and get them to talk. Listen to what they have to say. The more you are open to communication without judgment, the more they will confide in you and speak their heart. Even if they are not ready to communicate, give them some time. At the same time, make them realize that you are always by their side and open to confrontation whenever they are ready. By being present and communicating with them, they will be ready to face reality and realize their problem.
Stage an intervention session
Even staging an intervention may sound complicated, it mostly works and helps your loved one face the facts. Interventions are known to create a positive impact on loved ones and encourage treatment. Before you get to it, learn how to stage an intervention session for success. Firstly, your loved one shouldn’t be aware of the intervention meeting. Even though it may initially trigger a negative response, your loved one will soon realise the importance of this session. Remember, interventions are not just about confronting your loved one and helping them face reality but also to provide possible solutions for treatment and helping them get back on track.
Make them talk to people who have been there
No one would relate to your loved one’s problem better than an individual who has already been in this situation before. For instance, if your loved one is facing a drug issue, find someone who has been a drug addict in the past and overcame this situation with help and rehab. If you don’t know anyone who has been in a similar situation, you can seek support from groups or online forums that are willing to help others. Even if your loved one may not support the idea of confronting or meeting people from these support groups, you have to keep trying until they cave. Lastly, if nothing works, seek advice from a professional.
Remember, maintaining respect and keeping your expectations low are two key factors that can help your loved one face reality sooner than you anticipate. More importantly, give them time, especially if they are overly stubborn or nasty. Even though the process may seem complex, it is your duty to support and bring your loved back on track.
Dennis Relojo-Howell is the founder of Psychreg.
